There is not going to be a Take 3 on the trial with Star.  I made up my mind in an unexpected way yesterday morning.

I had planned to get Star today, try it for a couple of weeks and see how it went, then, had every intention of keeping her if things went well. I had even bought a new crate, water bowl, and feed bowl for her before her visit a couple of weeks ago.  Yesterday morning, I took Tippy out for her morning walk and told her, “Today may be the last day that we have with just the two of us.”  Surprisingly, as soon as those words came out of my mouth, I felt very sad.  I shouldn’t feel sad if it is the right thing to do.  I should feel excited about getting a new puppy. Right?   I knew then, that my decision had to be “no,” but kept mulling it over.

Today, I had to work for a couple of hours.  Afterwards, I went for a visit with Star and talked to the trainer (A.C.) who is currently keeping her.  We talked it out and here are some of the points that have led us to both agree that it just isn’t the right time for me to get a puppy.

  1.  My lifestyle.  Right now I am working a lot, play a lot of tennis, and volunteer a lot.  I really don’t have the time and energy that is needed for puppy training and playing.
  2. Traveling.  Tippy travels well and I can take her places with me.  She especially enjoys going with me to play tennis.  Star gets car sick and/or drools like a Mastiff when she rides. A.C. says she will grow out of that, but for now, riding for her is not pleasant.  So, I would have to leave her at home and either leave Tippy too, or take Tippy and leave Star alone.  While A.C. said that would be okay, I really don’t want to do that to either of them.
    I love to ride mom. Thanks for taking me where ever it is we are going.

    At the tennis courts
    You’re doing great mom!
  3. Why?  The main reason I wanted another dog was to give Tippy a companion when I am not home.  A.C. and I discussed this and, as much as I hate to admit it, I realized that was my only reason.  It wasn’t so I would have another dog to love and do things with.  (Not that I wouldn’t have loved Star.  I’m sure I would.  It just wasn’t my reason for wanting her.)
  4. Tippy and I are good together.  She’s happy.  I’m happy.  We know each other.  I don’t have to worry about her.  If she wants outside, I can just let her out and know that she will go do her thing and be back in a few minutes.  If she wants back in the house, she lets me know by looking in my bay window.  If she wants out, she snuggles my hand and goes to the door.   She adapts to my crazy schedule.  Why throw in another dog and potentially mess with that?
    Looking in the window
    Mom, I’m ready to come back in now.

    While I feel a little guilty about not taking Star, I am confident that I have made the right decision.  I am hoping that A.C. will keep her.  She is considering it, as one of her dogs is 16 years old and in failing health.  If not, I know that she will make sure Star gets to a good, loving home when the time comes.  In the meantime, Tippy and Star will still have play dates and sleepovers.  It just won’t be permanent.

12 thoughts on “THE DECISION

  1. While I am sorry for Star, you are correct in your decision making. You should be happy to be bringing home another dog–elated that you get to mother another fur baby! And every reason you stated makes so much sense. I am glad that Tippy will still have play dates with Star, but she will probably be very happy to head home–just the two of you.

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  2. It sounds like you made the right decision! You are a great role model… thinking, planning, testing the waters before making a life changing decision! Thank you for sharing all your insights involved in the whole process of dog/pet adoption! 🙂


    1. Thank you for those kind words. It really was a soul searching process. I hope the trainer keeps her so I can continue to be a part of her life, but, if not, I know that she will be placed in a good, loving home. She will NOT go back to the Humane Society to be placed with the first person who shows up wanting her.

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  3. You’ve made a reasonable decision, there’s nothing to feel guilty about (quite the opposite, people should think before they do something). And even though I’m not a one-dog-person, I’ll wait till I’m sure that’s the one, before I adopt another dog.

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      1. Well, as I said: you’ve made the right thing (and I wish everyone thought about the consequences of their actions before they make some decisions based on emotions) 🙂

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  4. I am glad you have come to this decision in your own time and in your own way. Bringing another dog into a home asks for a wholehearted commitment and I wish more people would put as much thought into acquiring a puppy as you have done here. Much love to you and Tippy xxx

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